To give you the best chance of meeting someone, all members can message you – until you say otherwise. (After all, you’re in charge).

To only hear from people in your preferred age range:

- Go to filters

- Set your preferred age range

- Enable ‘Hide me from members outside this age range’

For even more control, you can also choose to only receive messages from people you have liked, winked or messaged. To do this, go to ‘Preferences’ on the website or app and enable this as an option. Or, on the app, select the lock icon that shows at the top of your messages.